3 Surprisingly Helpful Techniques to Deal with Difficult People

Expect their presence, see their pain, and forgive their mistakes.

Patrik Edblad
2 min readNov 17, 2022


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1. Expect Their Presence

If someone treats you poorly, it’s not their behavior that bothers you.

It’s your expectations about their behavior that does.

Imagine, for instance, that your boss gives you a snarky comment.

If you feel agitated, it’s not because of how your boss treated you.

It’s because you didn’t expect your boss to treat you that way.

But if you think about it, that expectation is unrealistic.

The world is full of annoying bosses and other difficult people.

You can’t escape them, so expect them to cross your path occasionally.

That way, they won’t startle you as much, and you’ll be better able to deal with them.

2. See Their Pain

Every person you come across struggles with pain and suffering.

Just like you, everyone you meet deals with daily stressors, difficult emotions, and devastating experiences.



Patrik Edblad

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